Mothers shield sixth-grader from public humiliation

Sentinel photo/Lynn Sampson

Mothers Celeste Taylor, left, and Lisa Filice hold signs outside Mount Woodson Elementary School Wednesday morning after a sixth-grade boy stood across the street from the school holding a handwritten sign that began with, “I stole my father’s cell phone” before the start of school Monday and Tuesday. Seeing the boy standing there as part of apparent punishment meted by his parents disturbed students and adults, and several mothers shielded him Tuesday morning by standing in front of him as students arrived at school. The boy was not outside the school Wednesday morning. “Humiliation is not parenting” reads one of the signs.

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28 Comments for “Mothers shield sixth-grader from public humiliation”

  1. Guest

    These women should butt out! I'll bet you that kid never steals again. Back in the day, my dad would have killed me if I was a thief – things turned out really good for me. Actions have consequences – I applaud the parent who made their kid face a consequence. A little humiliation is a small price to pay.

    • ida

      He took his Dad’s cell phone. That is not the same as stealing. Discussing the importance would be appropriate way to handle the situation. Humiliation is not appropriate punishment.

    • Guest

      I agree with you. These two Mothers need to BUTT OUT. This is the problem with kids today, their is no consequences for their actions. This kid needs to learn he can't steal. If society don't change their attitude about discipline, more and more kids are going to get into trouble and end up with criminal records. This kid should have had his hide tanned.

  2. DelivryMan

    I agree with the comment “Guest” left above: children need consequences of some sort! Back in my childhood, I would have gotten my rear-end “tanned” but now-a-days, we as a society are too worried about hurting a child’s self-esteem, that we don’t want to mete out ANY punishment! If we continue DOWN this path, there WILL be OTHER consequences for the individual AND society!

  3. Bern

    I APPLAUD these parents. Good for you.

  4. Kohl

    Do these housewives have nothing better to do then get in the middle of someone else's business? To think they actually took the time to make signs and stand there is completely pathetic. Hahaa

  5. Vern

    Several years ago at OPMS there were prescription drug OD, etc. and some of the students had have their stomach pumped. The RUSD should have expelled those 6th graders. Instead, there was a sort of town hall meeting at OPMS and a few mothers came and argued that it was only prescription drugs like Oxycontin and Norco. RUSD gave in!! Those student amounted to nothing in the future, only to cause severe problems while they were at RHS… my son and daughter went there. When I grew up I had to pay for consequences and I grew up to be a decent citizen and contributed in R&D for the well being of other hard working people in private sector and also in the defense sector.

  6. Ashley

    These moms are just voicing their opinion. The parents who decided to shame their son in public better expect attention. They made this everyone’s business by “going public” with their punishment. Where were the parents while he was running up a $700 bill? I am all for consequences… And maybe one was you weren’t paying attention to your son and what he was doing???

  7. Jane Tanaka MD

    Public Shaming has come into fashion in our courts and parents who are frustrated with nothing else that seems to make an impact on the offending juveniles. One assumes that such a punishment would prevent recurrence of bad behavior, but it does not. Humiliation and shame produce not just lowered self esteem ( which makes some eyes roll I know) but also breeds anger and distrust in ones parents.( I would, rather that this kid be cut off ALL electronics, extra chores like picking up dog poop from the back yard, and grounding for several weeks, than being humiliated in public.. and if he is a compulsive stealer or addicted to electronics, he needs professional help. ) There are some who think of public humilliation as a form of bullying. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/nile-cappello/publi... . When the readers above call these moms "pathetic" they are bullying also.

  8. Resident

    These women are probably part of the "everybody gets a trophy" crowd. Disgusting!

  9. Chuck De La Cruz

    These mothers need to butt out.and take their liberal views out of Ramona!!! The problem with kids these days is people shield them, make excuses, fail to dicipline and dont hold them accountable.

    If you don't handle it when they are young you and the kids will miss the boat. Then you will be calling the police to fix the problem you created. what we need are more parents who keep their kids in check so they become a productive part of society and you and your kids can be proud. I applaud the parents. Great job

  10. Seriously people?!?

    I am ALL for holding your children accountable. Giving them choices and responsibilities but this is rediculous! Humiliating ANY child is NOT ok! I am 100% sure he learned a lesson but I’m 100% sure it wasn’t what his “parents” had hoped for. He learned that his school and the parents in our community care about him! He will, undoubtedly, make mistakes again in his life. This taught him that it’s NOT his “parents” that he can go to for help, it’s his community. We have your back kiddo! Be safe and be reponsible for the choices you make! I hope your “parents” are prepared for what may come from the choices they made.

  11. Natalie

    Wow, people amaze me. The above comment is nothing short of ignorant. You should do your research before you say stupid things. I don't know both of theses women, but I do know one, and she is the furthest thing from a "pathetic housewife" you will ever find. She is a dedicated, loving mother of four young children, all of which are extremely well adjusted, well behaved and loving. She also works and has been dedicated to educating our children in this community for several years. As a counselor at Ramona High School, she played a key role in mentoring my daughter and helping her get into an ivy league college. The fact that she took the time out of her extremely busy life to stand up for what she believes in is to be commended, not condemned.

    • Guest

      A counselor at RHS? Thank you for that information. In some of the discussions about cutting costs in the district it was proposed to cut the number of administration positions, including counselors. Looks like this makes the point.

      • Guest

        No, not a counselor at RHS, nor was she the mother who shielded the child from public view while he sobbed. Filice is a parent who heard about what was happening and arrived with a poster. The article is misleading.

      • Michael Filice

        Guest. I know nothing about you, but I am sad for you. You are obviously an unhappy person if you can so easily desparage someone you know nothing about for doing nothing more than standing up for what she believes in. We need more people like her in the world and I think one of the reasons we don't is because it is so easy today for people to hop on the internet and denegrate people they no nothing about. Just because you don't agree with my wife's opionion of this situation does not give you the right to pretend to know anything about her. It is not 'back in your day' any longer and if you feel so strongly that kids are growing up without proper discipline then maybe you should do something about it. Go be a mentor, teach at school, coach an athletic team. Maybe you already do these things. If so, that is great. My wife did nothing, but try to give back to this community when at RHS. She mentored kids, gave them support when they needed it and truly loved these children that will soon be the future of our community. I could not be more proud of the person she is and if you knew anything about her you would be too.

        • Guest

          Now who knows nothing about whom? You challenge me to be a mentor, teacher, coach? I have been all of those things. I know your wife. I happen to think it shows poor judgment for an employee of the district to show up at a distict school and demonstrate. Call it what you will, but it was a demonstration AGAINST a parent's choice in discipline. As a counselor, she has to be held to a standard when dealing with parents. If I had done that in my job, I'd be looking for a new job. Fortunately for her, she works for an organization that has practically no standards.

          • Michael Filice

            She hasn’t been an employee there for a year now so you must not know her as well as you think you do. If you say you know her that well and stand behind what you said feel free to toss your name up on the board.

          • Guest

            Good. One less cut hat needs to be made prior to asking for more bond money!

  12. Fawn

    There is other suitable punishment besides humiliation. Grounding?? That works. No need to beat a kid, or humiliate them.

  13. Michael Filice

    To all of the negative comments above: I find it ammusing that you can so easily hide behind the internet and desparage someone that you no nothing about. There is nothing wrong with voicing your opinion, but when you personally attack someone that you know nothing about you should think twice. I couldn't be more proud that my wife had the courage to put herself in the public eye to stand up for what she believes in. If the parents of the child did not want public backlash then they should not have chosen to discepline their child in public way. She did the right thing and although many of you may not agree that does not give you the right to judge someone you know nothing about.

    My wife spent five years at Ramona High School helping kids in this community get into college. She helped over 2,000 kids in our comminty get into college over those years. Something that would not have been achieved if it wans't for her relentless carring for the kids and her drive to help them have a great future. The kids and parents over the years so appreicate her that when they come home from college for break they come to our house just to say hi. She loved that job and those kids to no end. She also works full time and raises our four children. She is an incredible wife and mother and I could not be more proud of the person she is.

  14. Michael Filice

    To all of the negative comments above: I find it ammusing that you can so easily hide behind the internet and desparage someone that you no nothing about. There is nothing wrong with voicing your opinion, but when you personally attack someone that you know nothing about you should think twice. I couldn't be more proud that my wife had the courage to put herself in the public eye to stand up for what she believes in. If the parents of the child did not want public backlash then they should not have chosen to discepline their child in public way. She did the right thing and although many of you may not agree that does not give you the right to judge someone you know nothing about.

  15. Think Again

    These are the same moms who would ask after a more serious incident "where are his parents, why didn't they do something when he was younger, I'm sure this isn't the first time he's pulled something like this……"

    Here's your "participation medal" mom.

  16. M.Workman

    It takes a village. And yes devoted husband, people are judging, just like many are judging the boy's parents. Doesn't really seem like it's our place does it? Not knowing all the facts and all.

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